A nagging child? These three words will help…

I have taught Positive Discipline for Parenting for three years and nagging has been one of the issues that drives a lot of parents bonkers.  This article, based on the words of Lynn Lott, one of the founders of Positive Discipline will help you understand what to do.  The basics of the article on Positive Parenting Solutions are this (but please read it):

Instead of repeating yourself or jumping in to a lecture, avoid child nagging by getting eye to eye and follow the process below:

Step One: Ask, “Have you ever heard of ‘Asked and Answered’?”  (He’ll probably say no.)

Step Two: Ask, “Did you ask me a question about digging a hole?”  (He’ll say yes.)

Step Three: Ask, “Did I answer it?”  (He’ll probably say, “Yes, but, I really ….”)

Step Four: Ask, “Do I look like the kind of mom/dad/teacher who will change her/his mind if you ask me the same thing over and over?” (Chances are Daniel will walk away, maybe with a frustrated grunt, and engage in something else.)

Step Five: If Daniel asks again, simply say, “Asked and Answered.”  (No other words are necessary!) Once this technique has been established, these are the only words you should need to say to address nagging questions.

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